“Just wait for Trudy. Believe in Trudy. Trudy will come.”
When I began watching the television series Monk, I didn’t expect to get anything out of it aside for a good way to waste some (maybe a lot) of my downtime over the summer. What I didn’t know, however, is that in watching the show I would put together one of life’s most valuable lessons.
In this particular scene of the episode, Monk, the main character, is given the task of giving a teenage girl, Julie, some assistance in her boy troubles. There are a lot of awkward situations and the talk is going nowhere at first. However, it takes a turn for the better and some progress is made. The girl asks Monk how he knew it was “right” when he met his wife Trudy, to which he responds with a couple of reasons and this comforting statement: “All your dreams will come true. But they don’t have to come true this weekend, right? You can take your time; you can wait.” Just wait for Trudy. Believe in Trudy. Trudy will come.”
When I first heard this quote I really didn’t think anything of it. Only after a few minutes of pondering on it did the message really soak in. Like in the scenario portrayed by the show, relationship problems are often a hot topic when it comes to rushing into things and waiting. But realistically, you can replace “Trudy” with almost anything in life.
Most people don’t necessarily like waiting for anything, whether it’s for a job opportunity, a relationship that will last, or something as simple as a new car. Why should you have to wait for something when it can happen right now? Well, that’s precisely the lesson. Oftentimes when someone rushes into a particular situation it is done so from the hip and without discerning everything (possible results and problems).
This isn’t to say that every time something happens so quickly something wrong will occur, but anything that is undertaken without the proper knowledge assuredly has a larger chance of having damaging outcomes. This is exactly why Monk references why dreams don’t need to come true in a weekend.
Nothing has to be rushed because there is always time to think things over so that the right decision can be made. I’ll be one to admit that it has been an on and off battle to breakthrough into the profession that I hope to one day be a part of. I have spent copious amounts of time trying to develop contacts and get my foot in the door with an organization because I know that getting involved early is better than trying to attack it later.
Sometimes it even gets me down. But one thing I always forget is that I’m only going to be a junior in college and that I still have a couple of years before I become a part of America’s working class. I, along with others that are struggling with this, just have to remember that my time hasn’t come yet and that I will be presented with an opportunity when the time is right. So the next time you notice yourself jumping into a situation without much thought, just wait for Trudy because she will come.
“Sometimes the fastest way isn’t always the best way. Sometimes the best things in life take a while.” –Emily Beth