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This is New

December 19
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Matthew Rossi
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It’s 4 am. The sinews

in my legs are on fire and

my chest feels like it’s caving

in,

Like I’m being

pressed

to

Death.

 

Like I’m being interrogated

as a witch, when I know full well

that the witchcraft

doing this to me is coming

 

from somewhere buried deep within

and I don’t want to afflict

anyone else

with It.

 

It.

 

It.

 

It.

 

Why does It even begin?

The walls twist and spin, my heart races,

and my mind is the only thing

that outpaces it.

 

And   I.   Can’t.   Seem.   To.   Fucking.   Breathe.

 

My sick, slobbering, staccato mind wrings the muscles

in my abdomen, in my thorax,

in my gastrocnemii, (to put it medically)

while my vision wavers

and blurs.

 

I force myself to move, to stretch, to push

out anything deeper than the shallow breath held

in my lungs with each passing second.

 

I scroll through my instagram feed

searching for an escape.

Pretty landscapes, Pretty people,

Pretty.

 

Something prettier than this,

prettier than me.

Something whole or

 

Something that at least has the visage

of wholeness,

of put-togetherness,

 

because right now I feel

Broken.

 

This is new.


This poem is about my experiences dealing with Anxiety and Panic Attacks. They’re very new to me. Up until last semester, I had never had a panic attack, never felt what it was like to have crippling doubt about if I was normal, if this was normal, if I could control something like this. With the help of my friends, family, and the love of my life—my sweet and supportive girlfriend—I’ve been able to keep myself in a good place. Some days, it still hits me for no discernible reason. Some nights I wake up with cramps and attacks out of nowhere, like I described in this poem. I hope that by sharing my story, other people dealing with anxiety, especially those who are just finding out what it entails, can find comfort in knowing that someone else knows what they are going through. Anxiety doesn’t define you. There is always a way to combat your anxiety and you should never stop searching for what it is that makes you feel grounded and safe!


Thank you so much to Emily Covais, Dana Sauro, and Kyle Marchuk for your efforts in partnership with Active Minds Loyola, Maryland Chapter.

Just Jenna

December 15
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Danielle Watkins
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*Fiction by Danielle Watkins*

The season was wintertime. The night, silent as the snow that fell into shimmering piles on the ground, seemed calm. Standing by the door, Jenna, wearing her mother’s winter coat and gloves, wasn’t planning on going far. Just to the giant tree that felt like Christmas. To sit in the biting cold, the unmerciful wind licking at her dry skin, seemed like a relief.


Yet, she couldn’t bring herself to open the sliding-glass door. Her shaking hand hovered above the doorknob for a long time and hot tears blurred her vision. But then she saw something scampering in the fresh snow, defiling its purity with tiny footprints. Finally looking up at her reflection in the door, Jenna saw the girl once again. The girl stared back with frightened, unblinking eyes, slowly turned around, and trekked into the peaceful snowfall. Her ghostly shadow left loud footprints that eventually faded away into nothing.

Jenna didn’t want to be nothing.

******

The monster came slowly. It crept into the sinews of Jenna’s mind, telling her what seemed like truths, “That doorknob isn’t safe. You shouldn’t touch it.” It was easy to ignore the voice at first, but eventually, the voice materialized into a creature that controlled her every action.

It came when Jenna was in fourth grade. She and her best friend, Samantha, were romping around in the snow during recess. A bunch of boys were playing King of the Hill; one of them ripped off his coat and proclaimed he didn’t need it in the winter, only in the summer, because he was a man now. Everyone just laughed, but not in a mean way. It was funny, especially when the teacher came over and tried to climb the hill after the ‘man’ refused to put his coat back on.
Samantha grew bored and asked, “Want to make a snowman?”

“Oh, sure,” Jenna replied, “but after I show you how many husbands I have!” She whipped out her glove, which was a sickly purple with several painted rings sewn around the fingers.

“Is he one of them?” Samantha giggled and pointed to the boy on the hill.

But Jenna wasn’t listening. Where was her other glove? She was sure she had it. Frantically, her eyes scanned the snowy field; it was too bright and the light hurt her eyes. She shielded her eyes with her naked hand—it only reminded her of what was missing.

“What’s wrong?” Samantha asked concerned.

Jenna couldn’t breathe. She instinctively felt for her scarf wrapped around her neck. Was it too tight? Why couldn’t she breathe?

Gasping, she looked up. When had she fallen? She lifted her hands toward the sky; they became two different shadows. One dark and concealed, with fingers spread wide. The other bright and vulnerable, limp against the powerful star we call the sun.

******

“I want those!”

Grandma was taking Jenna shopping for her sixth birthday at a candy store attached to an antique store. They sold vintage candies, like Razzles and Lipstick Taffy, as well as newer brands, like Reese’s and Skittles. The antique store varied from intricate wooden boxes to Red Sox memorabilia. Jenna had pointed to the neatly stacked Milky Ways; she liked them because they were simple. Just chocolate and caramel. Nothing fancy, just sweet, gooey goodness.

“Okay, honey, but you know you can pick something else out too, right?”

Smiling, Jenna picked up a Milky Way and lead Grandma into the small corridor that connected to the antique store. There were several wooden figurines denoting different seasons and occasions, such as “Christmas,” “Caroling,” “Birthday,” and “springtime.” Jenna especially liked the mother/daughter figurine. The mother clasped hands with the daughter; their patterned wooden skirts flowed in the imaginary wind. Then, a pair of gloves caught Jenna’s eyes. They were a royal purple and they were bejeweled with small faux rubies. The jewels were supposed to represent rings, one on almost every finger. Jenna instantly thought of the Disney movies she watched so often. What Disney princess could claim four princes? Perhaps Snow White, but maybe the dwarves don’t really count.

“I want these gloves, Grandma! Is that okay?”

Grandma smiled and said, “Of course.”

Jenna smiled too.

On the way home, as Jenna happily chewed on her Milky Way, she didn’t hear the missed call from the doctor on Grandma’s flip-phone and she didn’t notice the sadness in Grandma’s eyes.

******

The cluttered dollhouse bothered Jenna, so she began to organize the house by room. Her hand hovered over the bedroom, hesitated, and then moved toward the kitchen. The kitchen was easier to clean. Sure, it could get extremely messy—eggshells broken on the floor, dirty dishes in the sink, empty cereal boxes on the counter—but it could always be fixed. The bedroom, and those who inhabit it, can usually leave. Unless you’re sick and stuck in bed. Unless you fall asleep forever. Unless you’re Grandma.

“Does that bother you?”

Jenna turned around and looked at Dr. Hays. She wondered if he grew up on a farm and if he had cows that mooed at bales of hay.

“I just like to organize the rooms,” she responded, “because my dollhouse at home is neat. Except for the Play-Doh stuck in the mailbox, but that’s because my brother, Cam, made me do it.”

“I see. Well, we’re going to have your mom come in now so we can all talk together.”

“Okay!” Jenna exclaimed as she turned back to the slowly improving dollhouse.

After Dr. Hays talked to Jenna’s mom, he said goodbye and they went on their way. As they were leaving, Jenna saw a boy from her class. His name was Jerry and he always misbehaved during class. One time, he ran out of the classroom all the way to the front entrance of the school. Running past the principal’s office, he broke free and everyone from the classroom could see him sprinting outside. The principal ended up chasing him, heels and all. All of the students became distracted and watched in envious fascination of Jerry’s escape. No one wanted to be like Jerry, they just wanted to be free.

“Hi Jenna!”

Blushing, Jenna waved hesitantly. Why was she in the same doctor’s office as Jerry?

Meanwhile, Dr. Hays’ next patient destroyed the order Jenna worked so hard to instate into the dollhouse, instead leaving it in shambles.

******

When Jenna first stepped into the middle school, she didn’t remember it. She was sure she didn’t want to remember it because she knew she had, in fact, been in the school before.

It was a private tour offered to her and Mom by the principal. Jenna hadn’t gone to the sixth grade orientation because she wasn’t sure if Samantha was going. And if Samantha wasn’t going, well, then there was no point. Although the middle school combined all four elementary schools and there were going to be different kids there, Jenna didn’t want a repeat of fifth grade. There were so many days she would come home crying to Mom, who would try her best to comfort Jenna but didn’t understand; it became easier to count the good days because there were so many bad days—normal days—and out of the ordinary good days were easier to recall sometimes.

The first day of school. Jenna got off the bus and looked up at the stout brick prison they called middle school. Suddenly, she longed to get back on the bus and sit alone in order to look out at the world passing by through the window. Anything could happen there. If it was raining, she could draw smiley faces on the glass. If it was snowing, she could countdown the days until Christmas and imagine making a snowman outside. If it was sunny, the possibilities were endless. Jenna could picture herself frolicking around outside, waving goodbye to the monster as it stayed behind on the bus.

Turning around, Jenna hoped to see the monster. But it wasn’t on the bus. She could suddenly feel a weight in her backpack. At her locker, Jenna neatly put her new Lisa Frank folders on the top shelf, keeping some for the first three classes with her. She noticed that the girl next to her threw all of her books and folders onto the floor of the locker. Jenna desperately wanted to fix what the girl had so carelessly done, but resisted. Focusing on her own locker, Jenna hung her backpack on one of the hooks, making sure the back of the bag faced the right side of the locker. The weight remained, though. Somehow, she had hoped it was just the backpack—that she was just feeling the heaviness of her folders and binders like anyone else would. Like a normal kid.

To get to her first class, Jenna had to go through the stairwell. She saw students pushing doors open, some holding the door for their friends, others rushing through and bounding up the stairs like wild horses. It was a tunnel that lead upstairs where Jenna would be further away from the main entrance.
“I can always come down. I have classes downstairs too.” Jenna reminded herself, “Even if I am just going to the bathroom, I can always come down.
Taking a deep breath, Jenna approached the ominous tunnel, thinking only of her descent later that afternoon. But when she got to the top, to the door, two girls had just entered and were coming downstairs.

“Oh no.” Jenna thought. The girls were gleefully gossiping and did not—no, could not—know Jenna’s predicament. As she slowly approached the doors, wondering how long she would be standing there waiting for someone to open them, someone came through and held the door for her; Jenna thanked her and headed upstairs.

The weight she had felt earlier bothered her most of the morning. When her section went to library class, Jenna froze before she could enter the library. There in the library were the dull pastel chairs they had in her elementary school’s library.

“Don’t sit there. Those chairs have germs.” The monster hissed at her.

“There’s no other option. There’s no other option!” Jenna grew wild. The only way to calm her down was a trip downstairs to the guidance office. The counselor soothed Jenna and said it was no big deal to use a different chair. The librarian helped drag out an old-looking rickety chair for Jenna to use when she finally returned to library class.

“Why does she get a different chair?” One of the students asked, a bit envious that he wasn’t special enough to receive similar treatment.

“Don’t worry about it, Mike.” The librarian said gently.

Jenna smiled. Maybe this wouldn’t be so bad.

*****

The last time Jenna saw Grandma, she feared kissing her. Although Mom reassured her that Grandma didn’t have a contagious sickness like a cold, Jenna hesitated. This was no cold.

Grandma reassured her, “It’s okay, Jenna.”

Jenna gave her a quick peck and her family left. Deep down, Jenna knew this was goodbye, yet she still feared Grandma’s touch—what kind of granddaughter does that?

*****

Later that week, when they had library again, Jenna dragged out the special chair because she was allowed to do it on her own.
“Why can’t you sit in these chairs like the rest of us?” Richard, a classmate, asked bluntly, but innocently enough.
Jenna hesitated.

“Because she’s a weirdo!” declared Mike.

Everyone laughed. But it wasn’t like the time the boy on the snow hill ripped off his coat. He was trying to be funny then and it worked. Jenna, on the other hand, wasn’t trying to be funny. She was obeying the monster and because of her compliance, she was ostracized.

Just before lunch, after the usual rush, Jenna made her descent. Some boys held the door for her, but when they saw her they screamed, “Weirdo chair girl!” and proceeded to gallop downstairs. Walking faster, Jenna tried to catch up, even though she hated having to rely on them. But it was too late. They had made it to through the door to the meadows. They were free. The gate was closing. Jenna heard echoes of laughter. Shadows swirled on the dull brick walls. The slam of the door closing kept replaying, but the door remained shut. Doe-eyed, Jenna looked upstairs, but no one was there, only the sounds of spite and the images of distorted figures.
The tears were coming now, flowing now. Just like Alice when she failed to open the door to Wonderland, Jenna cried and created a salty waterfall. Streaming up or down, it didn’t matter. Unlike Alice, she would eventually drown.

******

“Do you shake your leg like that because you’re nervous, because it’s a habit, like you were just talking about when you wash your hands?”

Dr. Gordon had it all wrong. Just because Jenna hated middle school and had strange habits to deal with that hellhole didn’t mean every little thing she did involved the monster.

Looking up defiantly, Jenna responded, “No, I like doing this.”

Dr. Gordon chuckled, subtly, but the attitude was there. Her frizzy hair shook slightly as she denied Jenna’s answer with that laugh. If her hair twisted like vines and formed makeshift horns, Jenna would not be surprised. Yet, she still stopped shaking her leg. As if she had anything to prove to Dr. Gordon. But Jenna liked to please people; when people hated her for no reason other than the monster, it just wasn’t fair.

Behind Dr. Gordon’s comfortable-looking chair, there was a dollhouse. It looked like chaos. The father was on the roof, the daughter’s dress was torn, and the couches were askew. Jenna saw a grandpa doll and her eyes scanned each room for his partner.

“That’s for the younger patients,” Dr. Gordon said casually, “but feel free to look if you want.”

“No thanks.” Jenna knew the grandma doll wasn’t there.

******

One summer, when Cam said he was going to run away as child, Mom knew he wasn’t serious. She even packed a knapsack full of snacks and sounded skeptical when she said, “Okay, but I don’t know where you’re gonna go.” Cam defiantly took the snacks and confidently made his way to the end of the driveway. But then he stopped. Slowly, he looked behind him, saw Mom, who was never far behind, and plopped down on the pavement thinking he was still a rebel. Mom would then sit down with him and they would talk. Jenna remembers watching them from her bedroom window, slightly worried Cam would actually run away. But he never did. At the end of the driveway, Cam and Mom would laugh while sipping apple juice boxes and eventually made their way back into the house.

But now Cam was older and so was Jenna. Not feeling particularly rebellious, Jenna still planned on running away, just into the yard. She had to, but she wished she had some kind of choice, or even an epiphany like Cam had. One that told her running away doesn’t solve anything; it could make things worse. But this wasn’t running away, Jenna tried to convince herself.

She was going to kill the monster. Bring it into the cold and leave it there. Jenna thought of all the delicious tortures she could bring upon it. Immobilize it and make it obey her. Make it stay in the cold because there were “germs” inside. There was no other option, she would tell it. And then she would laugh. She would laugh not because she was trying to be funny, but because she was right.

Yet, she still hesitated. She did not even hear her mother approaching.

“Jenna?” Her voice sounded strained. “What are you doing?”

The hot, salty tears were coming, “I wasn’t gonna go far, just to the tree, and then—”

Enveloped in her mother’s arms, Jenna sobbed. She sobbed for Samantha, for Cam, for Mom, for Mike, for all of the doctors and for all of the counselors, and for herself.
But most of all, she sobbed for the monster. She pitied its need to take over her mind, its need to belittle and bully her. Her tears began to cleanse the monster. She could feel weights lifting from her toes and traveling up to her head. Jenna feared her head would explode, just like a watermelon smashing on the ground. But the weight subsided until she could barely even feel it. The monster was still there, but the world seemed as quiet as the snow drifting outside.

Daring to look up into the sliding-glass door, Jenna almost screamed. No longer the ghost of a girl she was before, Jenna saw herself. Amazed, she recognized her own reflection as something familiar, not foreign. With Mom still holding her, Jenna realized she would never understand but she was there. In this moment, Mom was there and she had been there all along.

Then, Jenna vowed to never nourish the monster’s appetite again, a vow she found difficult to keep sometimes. It begged her for food constantly. Most times she couldn’t even hear it. Other times she ignored it. And then sometimes she acquiesced to it.


Determined and refreshed by this new covenant, Jenna continued to gaze at her reflection as she felt the warmth of Mom’s hug. Yet, wrapped up in bed later on, the sadness took over again. But not feeling isn’t human. Jenna wasn’t the monster.

My Journey to Overcoming Depression

December 29
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Lindsey Kehres
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(Written by Lindsey Kehres)


When I was younger, happiness seemed quite elusive.


I woke up each day going through the motions of one who was living. I would enjoy time with friends, eat dinner with my family, and at night immerse myself in various worlds with every book I read. Often it felt like I was living my life through someone else’s; through the hundreds of pages in which they told me their stories.

To me, I was simply lacking what I called “my passion”. And as soon as I found this thing that I was passionate about all would be better.

I was depressed. And I didn’t know it. Depression runs in my family, but that meant nothing to me. I was 15. And probably one of the most stubborn 15-year-olds in the history of the universe (I like to blame that trait on being a Leo).

My mom asked me if I wanted to see a therapist and I was appalled. In my mind, therapy was for people who were crazy and I was obviously not one of those people.

High school was a blur of mundanity, people who cared far too much about things that didn’t matter, and friends who either stuck by my side or faded off into the distance.

It was during my senior year of high school where I first learned to let go of people who only drained my cup and never refilled it.

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The kind of people who twisted my words, turned against me, and decided to taint my final year. I have gained the ability to let go and move on and for that I am grateful.

In the first semester of college came the happiest few months of my life up to that point. I was in a new state, a new school, surrounded by all new people; and I loved it. I joined a sorority and suddenly was surrounded by a strong group of dedicated and loving women.

It was all so wonderful until it wasn’t.

Second semester I fell into a deep depression, although at the time I wasn’t all too sure what it was. I was tired all the time and lacked any form of energy and motivation. I have always been a driven individual, so dealing with this sudden loss of interest was the hardest part for me. It was like I was living in a hazy daydream; living in a fog in which I couldn’t shake.

Then one day, after about a month, everything changed. I woke up and felt as though my depressed episode had never happened. To this day it has been one of the weirdest experiences. It was as if someone finally decided to flick the light switch of my heart and mind back on, so I soldiered on.

Life during my sophomore year of college became excruciating. The weight that I had gained my freshman year hung heavy on my mind and heart. I was finally at the weight my doctors had pleaded for, but I wasn’t happy. Thoughts became obsessive, relationships with those close to me became strenuous, and I began to once again restrict my diet.

This restriction was not a new concept to me. After a tremendous growth spurt my sophomore year of high school I had fought long and hard to keep myself at 100 pounds. Looking back I find it hard to comprehend how I kept my 5’9 frame at such a weight. I was at the lowest point in my life.

Every day was a battle to get out of bed, an attempt in vain to connect with others, a struggle to accept harsh criticism, and a fight to fend off disturbing thoughts of suicide. I was so low I wasn’t sure if I could ever find my way out of the abyss I had landed in.

But I did.

I reached out and found help for myself. I realized that I would never get better until I decided I wanted to and made strides to do so. I went into counseling for the next months to tackle these problems that I had been facing yet couldn’t define.

After a few months I came to terms with my depression, and after a few more I came to terms with my anorexia. It was with the help of my therapist and some internal reflection that I decided this: these labels do not define me. No matter the comments that were made or the doctors that I saw, I was not my eating disorder. And I was not my mental condition. And to this day I am not.

Sometimes you need to put labels on the battles you are facing, but that does not mean those labels will stick to you. They are simply used to help you sort out the chaos of the mind and help to organize your life. I can and have written whole stories on my eating disorder alone, but that is not all that I am made of so I do not choose to do so here.

Off I went to England to study abroad and I couldn’t have been more thrilled. Now there was finally a time for me to work on myself. To feel okay saying “I want to learn to love myself before I can love anyone else”.

For understanding that pursuing my passion for writing and exploring the world with me, myself, and I was all I really wanted right now. I realized that now was my time to be selfish. I had spent so long being overly-conscious of others’ feelings that I never actually looked out for my own.

I gave other people’s problems priority and in turn ignored the demons I was facing.

But not anymore.

Today, I care for myself. I have learned to live and let go of my past and those who no longer want to be part of my future. I have learned that being comfortable in my own skin is not an easy task, but it is something I will happily work towards. And I have learned that it is up to you to give your life purpose.

Every day I strive to fall in love with something, someone, or someplace. Life has a lot to offer if you let it; and I have found that having a sense of adventure can lead you to finding peace within the world.


So here’s to losing yourself in nature and finding yourself again among the sea. It is with this search for peace of mind that I am learning to love my life.

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