You wake up, roll out of bed and silence your iPhone alarm to greet the beautiful morning exactly 23 minutes before you’re supposed to be in class. Fast forward four (or six if you’re going the long route with a couple of victory laps) years later; you wake up, roll out of bed and silence your i-phone alarm to greet the beautiful morning two hours before you’re supposed to be at work.
Which would you rather? The answer is both, just at different periods of your life. Because as cliche and annoying as life is, you do change, especially in college. Every single day. You become stronger, more confident, street savvy and comfortable in your own skin.
As a recent graduate, my nostalgia for all things college related is in full swing. I can’t tell you how many times a poster for PB Teen’s dorm rooms have sent me on an emotional roller coaster ride. Then I think back to my own dorm and shudder for the terrible decor I chose to live with. Blue zebra print? Was that ever in style? My guess is no and that I was trying to be “different.” Just like everyone else.
And that is completely okay, understandable even. For those who were a big fish in a little pond your now a little fish in a big pond. For those of you who were little fish in a big pond, you are little fish in an even bigger pond. The silver lining? It does not matter.
Each year of college is a building block to finding yourself. You didn’t marry that boy you fell for sophomore year? That’s fine; it means someone better is coming and that you got stronger from the break up. You got a D on a test? That teaches you to put in the correct amount of work and discipline for your study habits next time. Use the grade as a motivator.
You and your best friend had a fight? Take this time to be the bigger person. Grow up a little and say you are sorry, fight for the friendship and make it work. It’ll be better for you in the long run and save a friendship in the process.
To those who have graduated and are like me (stressed and jobless) looking for their career, don’t give up. You’re going to have break downs, cry, want to throw you computer out the window, but in the end, those who put work into finding a job will actually find it. Most graduates do not find a job until six months after graduation.
So that’s ok.
Shack up with your parents for a while. They’ve helped you this long, they’ll continue.
Don’t be a mooch, however. Look for a job, yes, but also have a side job to earn your keep. Offer to buy groceries or wash the car. Don’t look or act like a bum. It will not work out well for you. Remember the lessons you learned in college and apply them to your every day life. Use the fact that your friend just got a job as motivation for you to get one as well. Push yourself to be the person you dream to be.
Sure, be nostalgic for the life you led in college. It was a great time to make connections, grow and meet some of the best friends of your life. But don’t let the past define your future. Keep growing. Keep moving. There is no such thing as winning the game; there are always more levels to push through, different obstacles to overcome and greater knowledge to acquire.
Look forward to the day where you wake up, roll out of bed and silence your iPhone alarm to greet the beautiful morning two hours before you’re supposed to be at work. But that is only the beginning.
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