I write this to share with you my vision, values, methods, obstacles and measures for 2017. This is a personal deep dive into what I believe in, the obstacles that will stand in my way from achieving my goals, and how I will show I have been successful. This is me being vulnerable and sharing my story. The easiest of these categories for me to write was the obstacles. There are so many doubts that could potentially stand in my way from achieving my goals. I want you to remember that yes there are more roadblocks, but you must learn to overcome these challenges to obtain what you desire.
What does 2017 look like for you?
Vision
My vision for 2017 includes traveling for the first time internationally using a wheelchair and spread FSH awareness internationally, continue to deep dive at work while growing my network and establishing deeper relationships with my coworkers, and give my time through volunteering in the community to help build a more rollable/walkable Atlanta.
Values
FUN
I’ve got many fun adventures planned for 2017 and I believe it is important to enjoy life regardless of your disability or ability. Taking life to seriously and forgetting to explore the world while I can is not a rut I want to get myself into.
TRUST
I value being honest and transparent in life and work. Peers, family and friends depend on me and I have to remain committed to them and show them I can be a resource of assistance and love.
TEAMWORK
I value synergy, learning from others and my own mistakes and building others up. In order to take on life and accomplish my goals, I must rely on other individuals to lend a helping hand. I also have to remember to be open to receiving help. I can’t tackle life on my own and must remember there is a strong support system behind me.
GROWTH
As my physical strength continues to decline, I value learning how to achieve greatness despite my obstacles. Leaning from others is an incredible opportunity and I believe in the power of sharing this wealth of knowledge. In order to grow, I value staying grounded remembering those who helped to build me.
Methods/Measures
Obstacles
When I think back to every time I accomplished something, there was someone there to guide me. When I was in school, there was a teacher and my parents. When I played soccer, I had coach or my parents.
Even at my first job, where I casually crafted Quiznos subs, there were managers there to guide me and help me succeed. Even in the most particular scenarios, such as stuffing my bag in the overhead bin of an airplane or getting my ticket ripped at a movie theater, someone was there to guide me. Guidance and leadership exist in so many different forms, from your teacher to your bank teller. It’s an aspect of life that in most cases comes naturally. It’s something that most people share and something that all of us expect: guidance.
All of the people who once guided me were replaced by other students who were just as clueless as I was. “Where am I going to live when I grow up?” “What am I going to do?” “Oh, I know – I’ll start my own business.” “But, how?”
Almost every student has the limbo feeling of not knowing what their calling is. First they may think its biology and then they may realize they are really meant for management. Then when they get in to management, they have no clear guidance on how to get a job. They’re confused on what classes to take and where to apply for real-world jobs. Nightmares of interviews and paper-jockeying haunt them at night.
The thoughts of driving a 2-seater with one taillight out and no money to replace it freak them out because they fear they will never find out what they want to do. How do I know this? Because that is exactly how I felt before I figured it all out.
At this sales meeting, I had the opportunity to meet the CEO, John Fallon. He invited us on stage in front of over 1,000 people and told us to ask us one question about the company and one piece of advice for the company. Of course, my mind jumped straight for the confusion that my life was currently engaged in.
I asked him how education can be better guided by mentorships. His answer was incredible and on point as he stated that students like myself should do something about it and that everyone in the audience is capable of making changes to be more personable in their daily lives. He was advising that success comes from inside and outside the books.
The second part of the on-stage interview was to give the company a piece of advice from the student’s point-of-view. As guessed, I once again laid my attention on the fact that there is a lack of mentorship and guidance in the lives of students outside, and even inside, school. I advised everyone, including Mr. Fallon himself, that there should be more attention given to establishing relationships. We should focus more on the students’ lives and not so much their grades. At the end of the day a student can pass ten advanced placement tests and complete two terms of club president but still be left without a vision or job.
At some point or another, especially while in the school years, we all need a little advice or insight. We need someone to talk to and someone to ask questions to.
What about the surgeon or lawyer we want to be? Why can’t we talk to them? Why can’t we sit down with a pilot or speak with a boutique owner? Once the on-stage interview ended, a flock of people rushed the stairs to speak with us. They we’re asking us questions and telling us that we had the answers to what students needed.
That was it. Let me say it again. We have the answers to what students need. The ever-so-famous lightbulb burst into the space above my head. I had the answer to the problem I, and many others, had been experiencing for so long.
Once I returned back to Athens in late January, I put the pencil to paper and drew out countless ways to make this light bulb come to life.
MentorBuzz has one mission: to connect students to mentors. We strive to make sure that every student has an opportunity to talk to someone in their field of interest. That one connection could be the key to success or the door to a new life.
Now, a student who is interested in orthodontics can get real-world advice from a real orthodontist, and not some internet forum. We connect students to the mentor they need and make sure that they can create valuable relationships. This is exactly what I needed and exactly what the other 42.7 million students in America need – a little guidance.
Not one person has become a billionaire without some form of guidance or mentorship. There is an old and humorous quote that goes, “It’s not about the grades you make, but the hands you shake.”
Granted, education is single handedly one of the most powerful energy sources in the world, but who says education has to come strictly inside a classroom? I have had countless mentors in various different fields from various different places. Without a doubt, it has made all of the difference.
MentorBuzz is here to re-shape the traditional forms of mentorships in order to make sure that every single student can get the advice and connection they need. We are here to make the difference in helping you get to where you belong.
Like our page on Facebook and reach out to us to figure out how you can get a mentor, or even how you can become a mentor. Help us spread our mission in order to create the lasting connections that we all need. Share our story and who we are because ironically enough, we still need mentorship and feedback too! #MentorBuzz
If you had told me in the fall of 2005 that 10 years later I would have voluntarily run four half marathons and a marathon, my 13-year old self would have said “As if” and gone back to texting on her pink RAZR phone, not so silently judging you for suggesting such a ridiculous idea.
At the time, I hated running. I hated how it made me sweaty, hated the hills, and hated the fact that my parents would drag me through the streets of our neighborhood to run “for fun.” Running wasn’t fun.
It was a self-induced death march that I was unfortunate enough to have to endure in the name of family bonding. Well, that’s how I saw it as a moody teenage girl anyways. Which, was when my mom and brother suggested I run cross-country my freshman year of high school, I was skeptical. Why would I purposely want to run long distances multiple days a week? How is running a sport?
But, because I had decided not to cheer and lacrosse try-outs weren’t until the spring, I didn’t have many options for fall sports. So on August 1, 2006, I laced up my running shoes and reported for practice.
First off, running is hard. Never in my wildest dreams did I expect there to be such an exact, and often painful, science to running hills or timing splits. Second off, and most importantly, I had coaches who believed in me.
Over the next four years, Coaches Cathi Monk and Christine Dahlhauser would teach me to not only have a love for running, but to have a love for myself. These two incredible women pushed me harder than I had ever been pushed.
They didn’t expect greatness, but they did expect that I would put in my greatest effort to be better than I was the day before. Most days I would do my best, but there were definitely practices and races that I just wasn’t feeling it. Each had an incredibly distinct voice and more than once I heard “Madi Lake, what the heck are you doing? I know you can do better than that!” from across the course. At that moment, the very moment I thought I would rather keel over than run harder, I would close my eyes and dig deeper, somehow finding strength that I didn’t even know I had.
While most runners hate hills, hills Coach D reminded me, give you the opportunity to prove to yourself (and others) how strong you really are. There is nothing more satisfying than basking in the descent after conquering a particularly steep hill. They taught me that the last .1 is just as important as the first 100 meters. In cross -country, it is the scores of the top seven runners that makes up the team’s final score, with the lowest team score winning the entire meet.
Therefore, even though you were running your own race, you were really running for six other people. You need to finish your race just as strong as it started, no matter how tired, or downtrodden you might feel.
You must always finish the race. You must always fight the good fight.
Finally, they showed me what it was like to be something larger than myself. At the end of my freshman season, Coach Monk handed me a single chain link. “This link represents our team,” she said. “As the newest members, you are our newest links. Right now they are shiny, but with age, they will dull. This is like a team – it’s easy to be excited when things are “shiny” but much harder when they’re dull. We are only as strong as all of us together and although it might be hard, there isn’t anything that can break us.” Being a link can sometimes be hard, but it’s always worth it in the end.
Because of these women, I am a life long runner, and appreciate what running can do for the soul. It is because of Cathi Monk that I know I can push myself without breaking, and that I’m stronger than I think I am.
It is because of Coach D that I have learned the importance of never giving up and to always have faith, no matter the circumstances. It is because of these two women and their wisdom, grace, and strength that I am who I am today, and for that, I could not be more thankful.